Father-baby love

Father-baby Love

Not every dad falls in love with his baby at the same time or in the same way. Many new fathers do not hear how other dads ‘fall in love’ in different ways with their new baby.

Here's what some dads say..

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It was about six or seven weeks before it clicked with me. Before that, I sort of felt some connection but nothing powerful like, this is my own child! Before the birth everyone joked about smelly poo and no sleep, but nobody said anything about falling in love.

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After she was born, these urges came out of me that I never realised I had … Working at night, I came home about two in the morning; about that time the baby would wake up for a change and a bottle, and I would take care of her and put her back to sleep

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When I get home I’m just with him all the time. When I’m at work I’m missing him. I don’t know what I’d do without him. Considering nine or ten months ago he didn’t exist… now I’d kill for him.

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I was in love with my child before he was born. But I was also very involved in his delivery. I held him for over an hour after he was born. My love was cemented at this time.

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She arrived in a very busy room with students, nurses and doctors there, and after a thirty- two-hour delivery. I remember holding her to my chest and cuddling her and thinking, Goodness me, I’m a dad! It was then that I fell in love with her.

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It took about three months to fall in love with my first. He was in intensive care for the first two weeks and I didn’t spend that much time with him once he got home. With my second it was about five months, as I was not able to split attention between my first and second

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The science tells us that when a dad forms a solid bond with his baby that helps that child through life. SMS4dads sends tips to dads on bonding with their baby and links to explore. But we also connect dads to other dads by passing on what they say.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Reproduced with permission from The Dad Factor: how father-baby bonding helps a child for life by Richard Fletcher Finch Publishing. © Richard Fletcher

Richard Fletcher

Associate Professor, PhD

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