Matt's Story from the NICU

Dads in the NICU told us that having access to a community of parents who had experienced a similar journey would have been helpful.

Matt's Story from NICU - how it works

Matt is a positive NICU dad advocate and endorses SMS4dads. He is also helping to bridge the gap of information especially designed for dads with his podcast “Dads of the NICU”

For fathers of premature or sick newborns, the journey can be just as traumatic, isolating, and stressful as it is for mothers.

There is a great importance in sharing the less spoken about dad’s perspective of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) or Special Care Nursery (SCN) journey and beyond.

 

Matt, a dad from Brisbane who has had two babies in NICU has shared his story with Miracle Babies. Excerpts below…

 “There are so many things to get your head around, now you’re a NICU Dad, you will feel so confused, scared, helpless, sad and anxious. All of these feelings and emotions are completely normal, as the situation you now find yourself in is not ‘normal’.”

 

“I was so worried that my daughter would not survive, and I had no idea what I was supposed to do. My wife and I were certainly not expecting to be in the NICU, let alone at 25 weeks gestation. But this was our path, and we had to walk it together.”

 

“The NICU felt so foreign to me, and I was quite scared to be in there. It is for this reason I want to share some important advice that I hope guides other new NICU dads.”
Matt's Story from NICU - how it works
Matt's Story from NICU - how it works
Matt's Story from NICU - how it works

What Dads Say About Their Experience of NICU

Richard’s research revealed possible long-term negative impacts on the children of dads with mental health issues. Fathers’ depressive symptoms in the first year after the birth predicted behaviour problems in their children years later.

“If dads’ mental health has such a dramatic impact then we need to be screening dads for depression, not just mums,” Richard explains.

In response to these limitations, Richard and his team have designed a smart-phone based program that allows mobile connection for new and expectant dads.

Participants receive texts containing information and links, and self-report their mood. If the mood tracker identifies dads as needing extra support, they will be offered a phone call from a counsellor trained in this area.

Following the success of the pilot of the SMS4dads program, Funding was received to enable a National roll-out.

“When dad’s miss antenatal classes or activities, they also miss out on contact and links to other people.  They may never get the chance to say to anyone, look I’m really stressed,” he points out.

“SMS4dads is a way of bringing dads into the health system and keeping them linked in with services and support,” explains Richard.

SMS4dads

Richard Fletcher

Associate Professor, PhD

Richard credits a varied career, a talented and innovative team, and much life experience for affording him the insight needed to address the challenges related to actively engaging dads.

After completing his masters in Medical Science, studying epidemiology, Richard earned his PhD focusing on fathers and attachment.

“Fathers are invisible in many places, and that is endemic. Not because people dislike fathers, but because the system is set up to be focused on mothers.”

Some services and organisations are aware of the need to engage dads, but have been unsuccessful in their attempts.

“When people are challenged about this, they generally want dads involved,” Richard affirms.

“Often, however, they just don’t know how to do it.”

Richard works with health professionals on issues related to fathers, and has delivered many antenatal programs for expectant dads.

He credits his own family with giving him an understanding of the role of fathers needed to make his work relevant.

“I have three daughters and two stepdaughters,”

“My kids would say they taught me just about everything I know and they’d be right. They’ve taught me a lot, and still do.”

Richard’s research revealed possible long-term negative impacts on the children of dads with mental health issues. Fathers’ depressive symptoms in the first year after the birth predicted behaviour problems in their children years later.

“If dads’ mental health has such a dramatic impact then we need to be screening dads for depression, not just mums,” Richard explains.

In response to these limitations, Richard and his team have designed a smart-phone based program that allows mobile connection for new and expectant dads.

Participants receive texts containing information and links, and self-report their mood. If the mood tracker identifies dads as needing extra support, they will be offered a phone call from a counsellor trained in this area.

Following the success of the pilot of the SMS4dads program, Funding was received to enable a National roll-out.

“When dad’s miss antenatal classes or activities, they also miss out on contact and links to other people.  They may never get the chance to say to anyone, look I’m really stressed,” he points out.

“SMS4dads is a way of bringing dads into the health system and keeping them linked in with services and support,” explains Richard.